Blog Makeover Block

So I am looking into redoing my blog giving it a face lift of sorts. I was told by some people keep it simple nobody wants to visit a blog that takes forever to load. Other's said go all out customize colorize make it match the bedroom, living room, heart and soul. OK maybe not all that but you get my drift I hope. So I was looking around and nothing seems to say hey pick me pick me. I wish it did because I am not a shopper I go I look and if something doesn't say pick me pick me then I walk away or pick the most plain thing I can find just to say there I shopped and it will last forever. I don't like shopping in general so what would make me think that blog dress shopping would be much easier. I am the type I want something that will last longer then the summer Maybe I am wrong maybe it is good to give a face lift every couple of weeks or months but I am a classic type of girl. I find it I like it and if someone doesn't come back to my blog due to it's look well then sorry their loss. I have plenty of other reasons to keep you away that don't include the look of the place. So anyway now that I have rambled... I need some help I need to find a place to go that will show me blog layouts and are simple and classic and don't have all the different colors and funny cartoon characters because quite frankly that is not me my heart or soul. I like to have a splash of color in a pretty plain looking room. To me that says look at me.