I am still learning this parenting thing much as I am still learning this blog thing. Every day things change and I learn something new that I want to try. It is amazing how as we get older we still need to learn day by day.
My kids may be the only kids in the world that have this problem, but just in case it is not only my children please feel free to help me learn some more ways to handle this.
What is the problem you ask? Beginning of school-itis. What is that you ask? Well during the first month or so of school they come home jittery, complaining about homework and food and thirst. Then my kids pull out their grades. Now this year I am shocked and amazed and don't know what to do. Normally it is my son who brings home less than perfect grades. My daughter brings home A's as if they are the only grade they give out. Well this year it is quite different. Why you ask? Well at the end of last year we found out my daughter is bi-polar. Now not many kids are diagnosed bi-polar at the tender age of 8. Now this is the frustrating part. Since it is so uncommon in kids her age I can not find a doctor for her. The neurophsycologist who diagnosed her said it may be best to put her in a school that has special education, but I refused she is a straight A student why mess things up. Well this year it is different. She is bringing home very bad grades. With it being only a month into the school year I am trying hard not to freak out, but man is it hard. We send my kids to a parochial school and it is not cheap. I am not saying that I am paying for grades because I am not, but I am saying if she is going to flunk out I cant afford it. My son on the other hand is bringing home excellent grades. It seems as though when one kids messes up the other is great and vice versa. Does anyone else have these type of tag teaming kids?
I must say so far I am lucky DH is home from work still and he is helping out but when he goes back to work (which could be as soon as Monday), I may just go insane. I will feel like the failure if I can not help her get her grades up. I am now searching high and low to see if I can find a doctor that will not only take her and help her but also one who will take my insurance. I found one doctor who would take her. Yes only 1 and he did not take my insurance. In a desperate plea of help I asked how much did he want please I need some help. He said $500 for the first visit and $300 there after and he will need to see her once a week. Well of course I am a millionaire I can swing that. So needless to say I continue to search online and try to help my daughter on my own. I continue to search for a doctor while my loving DH thinks this is all in her head (no pun intended) and she can turn it on and off.
So this is why I say I am not SuperMom. I am not hear to save the day. I don't have all the answers and every day I am learning as well as my children are. I hope that one day I will find someone or something that can help us with our problem. I also pray that DD pulls up her grades because I see how much it is hurting her to be getting these grades when she knows she can do better. I don't know if her mind is everywhere or if it is just beginning of school-itis but I do hope it calms down soon whichever it is.
2 comments:
I hope it all works out. Third grade is hard enough. My daughter is also 8, and she went from 15 - 20 minutes of homework to 1.5hours of homework a night. Also, they are learning at the speed of light. It's a tough transition year.
(((Carri))) None of us are super moms, we're all just human. In my experience it is VERY tough to get help with any type of mental illness, no matter how big or small. It's quite sad really. I can only imagine the difficulty in finding a doctor who can treat someone as young as her and accepts your insurance. Whichever doctor declared her bi-polar should have information & resources for you. I would call them and explain that you cannot find help for her. Could her grades have nothing to do with her being bi-polar? Maybe she is having trouble at school with a teacher or student? I hope everything works out, Carri.
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