What she said

I told you I would tell you what my best friend said in my next post. What did you think I was a liar.

So here is what she said. We wives stay at home and our husbands work and it is only fair if they come home after doing there job and we have done our job. Have dinner made, clean clothes, the house clean. a nice relaxing place for them to come home to because that is our job. OMG no she didn't this is not my job, I do my job I do homework with my kids and feed them and cloth them and make sure they are bathes and there teeth are brushed. I make sure that they are happy and healthy and get where they need to go. Who cares if he comes home to a dirty house that is his home and he can help. But then I thought oh wait her does help. More then any other husband I know. he wakes in the morning even after his night shift and he brings the kids to the bus stop or to school. He does things around the house. he makes a fresh pot of coffee every morning and he brings me coffee, He go to the store and food shops and carries the heavy things and he works. Outside of the home as well as inside the home. Then I sat and thought and I realized I am so lucky.

Some husbands I know go out whenever they choose and go for a drink after work. They have hobbies other then there family despite working all nights and never seeing there family or despite working a 70 hour work week. They dont come home after work and there wives cook and clean and pamper them. Yes those wives are also miserable. Not judging just speaking from what I have heard. They are not happy because they feel there husband does it all and they suffer. They are the poor me and I will not be a poor me. Well not always anyway. My husband works and comes home. He comes home on a Friday night and asks me if I am going out because i deserve to get out of the house away from the kids. He gives me a massage and pampers me. He bring me a pillow and a blanket so I can lay on him and watch TV. He does it all for me. So I guess doing my job isn't so bad after all.

You know the best part. I now love my job and honestly do not ever want to work outside of my home. I know I must one of these days but I want to be home and be a Mom. I want another baby to raise and I want to go to my kids school plays. I want to be class Mom (which I happen to be this year WooHoo!). I told my friend that what she said truly made an impact and it did. When my husband is home he helps around the house but on days he works so do I. When he comes home I have clean laundry for him it is folded and on hangers sometimes just waiting to be put away OK OK maybe not always put away but it is clean. All that needs to be done is putting it where it belongs and my husband is so awesome that he will do it. Even those times he has worked late he will do it. Although just like sometimes I am tired so is he so sometimes it sits, but I do try to get it away the next day. I am not the perfect housewife, wife, or Mom and I know this but I want to do it better. I want to be a tree hugging hippy Mama. I want to wear and apron and cook and clean and look great doing it. Until then I am me and I am doing what i can the best way I know how. But my best friend sure planted a seed and it is growing day by day.