Day 8 Immobilized

Was spent in the hospital, I guess Big Girl did good on her med's I dont know I was knocked out from the wonderful (note sarcasm here) pain pills I was given. So a bit of a back story.

Saturday Big Boy jumped on my bed, I was laying sideways under the blanket and my leg was right where he jumped.
Fast foward to Monda, Big Girl and her friend ask me to turn Big Girl's bottom bed which is a furon into a couch instead of a bed. So I tried my hardest, needless to say the mattress is very thick, it was bought for sleep not a couch and needless to say I pushed with my knee.

Now Monday night I am in an extreme amount of pain. I dont know if it was either of the above occurances or what but I know I am in pain. I finally passed out after many many hours of tossing and turning. I woke up Tuesday still in pain and decided to put on my knee brace that I have to give some support. I was icing it all ngiht and now it felt worse. Ugh. Tuesday night I was still in pain. Finally Wednesday morning I decided to go to the hospital, where I was given an immobilizer and crutches and these horrific sleep pills pain meds. I guess you dont feel pain when you sleep and luckily Hubby was home from work to deal with life as it went on around me literally.

Hubby and I got into a few spats over me wanting to go out and do things. I am not letting a strained tendon slow me down, I had a dance school to check out (which was such a waste) I wont even go into dialogue with the guy although it was definitely something to be heard. Ugh the guys just irritated me.
I asked do you have boy's hip hop classes.
Him:What age Ma'am?
Me:Seven almost eight
Him:Well we have an instructor who comes in on saturday's from 9-6 and teaches jazz and ballet.
But do you have hip hop classes
Him: Well Ma'am those are like hip hop
(Thinking to myself, ummm really ballet and jazz is like hip hop is this idiot for real?)
Me: But do you have actual hip hop.
Him: Well we have classes on Tuesday for teens and on Thursday's for adults.
Me: But do you have boy's hip hop
Him: Ummmm no
I just hung up, I was speechless hard to believe. But seriously thanks idiot I could have hung up and not wasted my minutes about 10 minutes ago. The guys sounded like a message machine seriously like a robot and when he first answered I swore I was talking to a machine and sat in silence waiting to here the beep. Ugh now I know why he makes no money and is literally giving away dance classes for free.

On to the next school, I got smart and just used Safari and looked up dance classes and found one that starts in June for a summer class or wait till August/September for a school year class. OK no problem just what I thought. So now once the summer is through if Big Boy is still interested in joining a dance class we will go over there and sign up. Cant eveyone just be simple and make sense and just let us know straight foward yes or no. Answer my question dont beat around the bush, seriously I will now make sure nobody goes to that dance school because he has not customer service and wasted my time. Yes I am a mean New Yorker I know.

Hubby made dinner and brought the kids to church and even went to Wally World just to pick up a few items we needed for the next few days. I sat home and caught up on TV. OMG Desperate Housewive's made my night. Shockingly even after a 2 1/2 hour nap I passed out by 1 a.m. and had an awesome night's sleep. I am not planning on taking my pain med's during the day ever again, maybe at night to help me sleep. I also do not want to sleep with the immobilizer which I think I should be, but people I am in Florida and it is cool enough for my electric bill. Besides I dont want to freeze out the rest of the house because my immobilizer makes me 20 degree's warmer then normal.

Day 7

One week and things are looking up with everything. Big Girl was not tired today although she did go right to sleep when she was put to bed. She was definitely cranky but at least I didnt have to fight her to stay awake. Slowly but surely the side effects are wearing off and that is awesome for all of us.

Day 7 on the marriage front, everyting is going wonderful. The knock out brawl the other night helped us so much, we were able to get out what we needed and learn how to communicate and today when I slipped a bit hubby nicely said honey and I remembered and I did the same to him. No taking offense no thinking anyone is being nasty. Just plain old communication at it's finest. WooHoo.

As for me, well Big Boy jumped on my bed the other day, little did he know I was laying sideways and he landed on my knee. Well last night it started bothering me and still is. I wore a brace today and the pain was come and go but it was there. I need to find myself a doctor so when things like this occur I can go get checked out and not have to sit aorund in pain like I am doing now. Isn;t it funny 2 days after we moved here the kids had a doctor's appt. I had actually picked a doctor before we even moved. Now a month later and I have yet to find a doctor for myself or Hubby. Goes to show how much we as parent's do neglect for ourselves versus our kids. Tomorrow Huby is off so we are going to a dance school to find out about classes for Big Boy. He wa sin competition dance back in NY and I think it is beyond time we look into something for him here. It is only fair the kid loves to dance and he has been mentioning it. I thought we could hold it off since it is recital time but he is not having that he wants to dance and I cant hold him back. We are settled it only seems right. Big Girl on the other hand has not mentioned it so I am not bothering her about it. She will be doing cheer and hopefully that is enough for her (it is going to be 7 days a week to start), Big Boy will have football and he wants dance so we will try. It's funny how in NY Big Boy didnt want to do much of anything but now he wants to do it all. He even wanted to do cub scouts but Hubby is completely against it and I refuse to argue with him over something so trivial. Big Girl on the other hand has not seemed interested in anything so until she is I am not pushing it, I will let her tell me in he own time.

So that is today's update how are things in the world of you?

Day 6?

So first comes Big Girl, the meds are still making her drawsy and it is blah but if I give her a 10 minute power nap and leave her alone during cranky time we work passed it. Now if we have to go out in public we will see what happens. But so far so good I guess. I guess with ADHD and ODD you have to choose the least of the evils and so far this drowsiness is better then the up's and down's throughout the day. I just wonder how she feel's. I ask and all she says is tired. Well we shall see it has only been a few days so we will keep at it and if we dont like it comes the end of the month we will check into something else.

Agh the weekend. Tons of fun. Seriously TONS OF FUN! We went to a huge parade that is known all around been around forever and the kids had a blast, and so did I. We wish we had friends to join in the experience but heck not having friends wasn't so horrible. We sat near some nice people and it was almost as good as having friends, other then saying bye knowing we will never see them again.

Sunday we went to Longboat Key. It was gorgeous we loved it and we only had one break down. We meaning Hubby and I, but it is OK last night we had it out but good. I mean seriously balls to the walls we flipped and it was awesome. No, no wonderful make up..... but seriously so therapeutic. We both realized what we need to change and that we need to learn to communicate. As I said before we didnt ge tto this point over night and it sure as crap wont change over night, but overnight it did get better and that is a wonderful thing in my book. Sometimes having it out makes it so much better. We now know what is wanted from eachother and we also know how to let the other know in the ways that we wont take offense to it. If that makes any sense. We discussed what irk's us, as if after almost 10 years of marriage we didn't already know that and we discussed how to say what we need to without hurting the other one's feelings. Goodness so basic but yet something that needed to be done. I truly just hope we can continue to work on the communication because I think that is something we have both been lacking. We got so used to horrible communication that itjust seemed normal. So today was amazing day. I woke p to my husband next to mein bed. No he doesnt sleep on the couch, or in another bed. He normally wakes and brings the kids to school, comes home and passes out on the couch. This morning he came in the room and I woke up to him near me. It was nice and we cuddled and that in itself was a wonderful feeling. Needless to say with the building painter's outside my window and us hearing them loud and clear we imagined they could hear us just as well, so we laid in bed all morning and half the afternoon, till I had to go get the kids. It was almost like when we first got together, carefree and enjoyable. I cant wait for more days like this one.

Reality Shows

OK so I am addicted I can admit it, I love all the junk ones and the worse they are the better. MTV such horrible reality shows and guess what I watch them all, ok maybe not all but a lot of them.

So this time I watched Jamie Oliver's Food Revolution. I think it is amazing that he wants to change our school lunch program's and if it works how wonderful is that. When I watched tonight's episode it makes me want to cry for so many reason's. First of all if you watched it did you see what parents are sending their kids in to school with for lunch. Umm chips, dry sugary cereal, jelly beans and yes this is all one school lunchbox. Dont forget the lunchable, which I myself have fed my children but I try not to often. I know this is reality and he found the worst of the worst and that is what he showed, shoot they may have even edited one kids lunchbox to have all the junk food who knows. It is just sad. I myself know I am guilty of feeding my kids garbage I mean we are in America and I am not rich and I dont know about where you live but where I live it is cheaper to get junk food then it is to get fresh fruits and veggies. I am starting to be able to afford the healthier food but my kids have grown so accustomed to some of the junk that the "real" food is just abnormal to them. I refuse to give up though. I am glad I have been cooking and I know what is going into my kids food. I even had Big Girl say (before we moved) hey Mom where's the rest of the meal when I had made a steak and potatoes. when I stated that isthe meal she asked for a veggie, because we always have one. I cant lie I made broccoli with cheese and justified it because it was broccoli. I do not cook the healthiest and I am still working on cooking nightly and getting rid of all the junk, but oil and butter creeps into our food. This show has shown me that it is possible to feed our kids healthier and to make a change. So are you trying to make a change? Have you always cooked healthy? Do you just continue to let your kids eat what they eat because they are healthy? I know many of parents whose doctor's tell them feed your kid whatever just get them to eat, so chicken nugget's, sugary cereal and junk food it is. What do you think of that? Do you have any wonderful recipes to share because this struggling chef need's some new kid friendly idea's that dont consist of crap but my picky eater's will eat, have I mentioned Big Girl CAN NOT have her food touching. Yeah good luck with that. So let's hear it, your own personal sound off.

Day Four

Hubby and I have gotten along fine today, again one outburst. They tend to happen as we get the kids from school. For some reason Hubby find's it funny to pick at me. For instance calling me tubby when i eat all day (mind you I am anything from tubby shoot I could gain about 15 pounds and still not be tubby), just sharing because it is not meant to be mean just his "endearing" terms for me. Today it was all about how I cant drive. Right I forgot he is the best driver, I snapped again I am just getting sick of it. Everytime I say something he says how perfect I feel I am. So much for trying hard huh. Last night did not go as planned, I swear it is like when I plan I just plan to fail Hubby did have dinner when he got home but it was the rest of the subway we had all pigged out on. Oh well better then nothing I guess. Hubby played hours of his game, watched his TV and I sat on the phone then went in the room and wtached TV. I am starting to wonder if we are just in that big of a funk that we can't get out of it. I am not giving up just getting a bit upset that yet again another plan is working out anyway but the way we planned it.

As for Big Girl, it is day 3 on her new med's and it has been a pretty good day. She is a bit drowsy but did not nap today which is a good thing because after our nap yesterday she went to bed even later then I did. She was also up early this morning so on top of the med's making her drowsy I am sure lack of sleep did as well. There have not been many outburst's from her today though and that is a good thing.

Right now I sent Big Girl and Big Boy outside to play, they have been spending way to much time indoors this week. Not because of nasty weather just due to never wanting to go outside at the same time or nobody else being outside and they are not allowed out alone. So today I sent them out after dinner and told them they are not allowed back in until bedtime. So what does any kid now a days do, go to the neighbor's to veg out instead. Ugh I just can't win, but at least they are in a different setting vegging out. I have the door open and the breeze is flowing and I am enjoying it.

I would say I plan to do something fun away from home this weekend with the kids but then we might be destined to staying inside all weekend, so instead I will say I plan to enjoy the weekend. Hubby is working tomorrow but Sunday he will have off and I know this week we will make it to church. That is not a plan that is what is going to happen most definitely.

Oh BTW has anyone else seen those Silly Bands, yeah well I have. I have seen them at Beall's finally after searching 4 other stores. I bought them and not I dont want to hear about them again. The nerve of some company to charge $5 for 24 fun shaped rubber bands. Ugh the newest craze and sadly my kids are not the only one's that caught the bug but I too hopped on it and ran to find them. Now they will sit around and the kids can be thrilled they got some rubber bands that are shaped as things. Gotta love the newest crazes.

Day Three

Day three has been a simple one. I woke up and had to go get Big Girl from school. She was drowsy from the med's and the doctor wanted to see her. We decided to keep her on the meds and see where it goes from here. Right now she is more mellow without the highs and lows all day which is good. Still a bit of attitude and talking back but still better then before.

As for Hubby and I well he woke me this morning to go get Big Girl and bring her to the doctor, once that was done and I brought her back to school I saw him for to minutes before he went to work. He did call me twice from work which is not normal and he was very sweet on the phone so I guess that is an improvement. I am just glad we are trying harder to be nice to one another. I plan on having dinner hot on the table when he get's home and the place is clean with fresh sheets to sleep on tonight so that is a nice treat.

I also have a good snack and drink for myself for tonight to enjoy a tiny bit of me time between the kids going to sleep and Hub's getting home. Ah I cant wait to crawl into my fresh sheet's after a nice hot shower. What is a special treat you do for yourself and/ or your significant other? I personally love the shower/ fresh sheet/ good drink and a sweet treat combo.

Day Two

Today was an extremely good day. Only one outburst and it was me. We spent the day together enjoying eachother's company. I enjoyed this day and I reminded myself we are trying harder to be nicer to eachother. Hubby helped me cook a bunch of food at 10 at night that I needed to cook before it went bad. He also is helping clean up. We got a bunch accomplished today which always feels good. Tomorrow he is working most of the day so it should be a very easy day to get along without confrontation. Goodness that sounds so bad but heck it is what it is and all we can do is work hard to change it.

In other news AT&T rocks and they gladly sold us warranty's for our phones. Yes it cost us and I am sure the guy made commision but we are now under warranty and if anything happens to our phones we can replace them for less than half the price it would cost if we did not get this "insurance", it also helps with constant tech support. Not only were we able to get them 4 monthes after we got out phones but we also got it cheaper then we were first offered it for. Can it get much better than that. We were able to get awesome cases at 50% off as well. I think we got a good deal and I love a good deal. I just hate that we had to spend money to have our phones protected, but money makes the world go round.

Today was a good day. Big Girl started her new med's today and that was not such a good day. Poor Big Girl was so emotional and complained of dizziness and nausea. I feel bad she is having a rough go of the new med's but I am hoping it will even out and help more. If not then we must move on with behavioural modification and therapy. I just want Big Girl to be a kid and not have to go to the doctor's every week. I know there are plenty of kids who do but it just saddens me. I was at the therapist every week as a child for my depression and it stunk I dont think it helped one bit and when my Mom finally stopped forcing me to go and let me be a kid things got so much better for me. I think weekly therapy and being "different" made me more depressed then the actual disease.

So that is day two of our new relationship. I enjoyed the day and hope tomorrow can be even better. I cant imagine it being worse as Hubby is working all day, but never say never.

WOW

I cant believe it the truth has been out and now the truth must be worked on. Since we have been in Florida Hubby has told me what a wonderful housewife/stay at home Mom I have become. I bring him food when he is at work, coffee sometimes as well and even stopped to bring him money and not take from him LOL. It is nice having him up the road at work instead of 45 minutes away. It is different and I enjoy it when we need something signed or he forgot something at work or took something we need. It is convenient. It is also nice that he doesnt have to leave he house 2 hours before work and instead only 5 minutes before. But for some reason even with the lack of stress from being hours away from home for work e are still arguing.

Before it was his job, now it is everything. I said something finally again, I had to but did I say it right I dont know.
Hubby made a comment "we need to try to be nicer to eachother" (and not take everything said in the wrong way... I added that part). It made me chuckle "are we trying to be mean to eachother?", he said "no we just aren't trying hard enough". So here it is day 1 of trying to be nicer to eachother and not jump on everything the other one says or take it as being nasty. I dont know when we started traveling down this path but I do know we are sick of it. We will be married 10 years this August and we want to continue to be married to eachother despite our arguing and stupidity. So today is day one of us being nicer and not jumping down eachother's throats. I hope this works and now this will be my new added thing to blog about, our journey. I think now a days it is so easy to say and then take action to get a divorce that I want to share our journey of getting things back to the way they were because obviously it must have been good or else why would we have said I do.

Quick back story

April 1999- I got my first car
May 1999- I got my GED
June 1999- I got my independance
July 1999- I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 1/2 years
August 1999- I enjoyed life being a teenager for the first time in a long time
September 1999- I started cosmetology school
Halloween 1999- I started working at TGIFriday's. (Hubby worked there as well)
Two weeks later I broke up with my then rebound boyfriend. 
November 1999- Hubby and I went on our first date
Early December 1999- Hubby got kicked out of his place and was sleeping in his car, I aked him to move in with me and my Mother who was traveling for work. Mind you we only went on 1 date and did not have a good relaionship. I was actually dating other guys at the time.
Christmas Eve 1999- We became official
New Year's Eve- Hubby told me he loved me
January 7 2000- DD was conceived
Valentine's Day- we found out we were pregnant
Feb. 19 2000- We got engaged
August 4 2000- We got married
September 15 2000- We got out first place
October 1, 2000- we moved in
October 14 2000-  We had Big Girl

See kind of quick within a year of meeting we were married with child. So when did we have time for us. Now almost 10 years later with two kids in a new state and still having no friends we have decided we will reconnect and be eachother's best friends yet again. We dont always have bad time's but we want to make sure we have hardly ever since lately everything is taken the wrong way. We love eachother and we want to go back and change some things that we know we did wrong. So has anyone else ever tried this?

Not Me Monday

Head on over to MCKMama for more not me Monday's.

Wow I have not done one of these in a while. Let's think of all the things I have not been up to.

I definitely do not have a box still sitting in my master bathroom that I have not unpacked but have walked passed a million times. I mean come on now I have been unpacked since a week after we moved here so why would I still have a box with little things unpacked in my bathroom.

I also did not send my kids outside to play just because I couldnt deal with the noise, and just having them under foot. I needed a moment but come on now I would hae given them something educational to do, read a book play a game with eachother not just kick them out of the place what type of Mother does that.

I have not been sitting here depressed because I know nobody and allowed everything to annoy me because I know nobody and can't get out and have me time. I have friends in NY and I talk to them daily so I should be OK with that. I have my wonderful husband who has been doing nothing but giving me attention (yeah not so much since Just Cause 2 has come into our home), I should be happy to have my family because that is all I need.

So that ios some of my not me Monday I am sure there are other wonderful things I have not done but honestly I cant think of them now so I am done. So what have you not done this passed week, month, lifetime?

Edit: I must add this week I did not yell way more then I did the week before. I am trying really I am, I guess I just need to try a little bit harder.

I also did not judge anyone at all this week because I keep saying I dont want to be judgemental and I dont want to be judged. So no way did I judge anyone or anything that would just be wrong.

Friday oh Friday

Today is going to be a good day and tonight is going to be a good night. Because I said so and that is that. I know Friday's were always My Husband Rocks but let's face it, I got lazy and I havent blogged in forever so this week it is not going to be focused on him.

I will say my husband is awesome because when i get on his case to get things done he calls me oh so proudly that all my persistance has paid off and he got things done. OK love ya hun there ya go you rock for getting things done, and calling the landlord because quite frankly I just dont want it.

Now back to my Friday I got all the things we needed done, done. WooHoo now it is my time. When I get the kids from school there is a carnival. Our first fun school thing to do and I can't wait. We used to have an awesome one in NY that had fun and games and rides and food. Oh the food. Yum yum. I hope this one is fun as well. One good thing no matter what is this. I am wearing a sun dress and it is April 16th and it is gorgeous outside and we are going to enjoy the weather if nothing else because we are in florida and that is always the silver lining.

I have also realized I have now lied here 1 month 1 day and my furniture has been here 1 month and we have had everything unpacked for 3 weeks and I still have not taken any pictures of the place. Sooooo that needs to be done. Not today but soon because what fun is living in a new place if you can't take pictures and show family and friends. I definitely dont think picture's will do the place any justice but whatever. Also with pictures comes another perspective and people can let me know what they think and what can be changed. Oh yeah and the wonderful crafty people I know can help me figure out what to do with the cabinet space in my kitchen. We now have pace over our cabinet's and it is gorgeous space and yet it does not have things I love. Why? Because I am not creative and I am being cheap and dont want to spend a lot to get it the way I want it.

So now my Friday will consist of a carnival, and hopefully carnival food, and family time because what is better then some quality family time. What is your Friday consisting of? Have a great weekend no matter what you do.

Hello is anyone out there?

Well I am 2 months later in a new land and loving it. We have definitely taken some time to get used to the place and we are loving every moment. What new land well Florida of course. Right by the Gulf of Mexico. Agh so beautiful. We have made the move GoodBye New York and HELLO Florida.

I know it has been a long time since I have updated and boy oh boy have I missed blogging. I have missed my "friends" I see I have missed some blogs disappearing as well, which truly saddens me. I feel like I have missed a lot but I am back to catch up.

So as for this new land. The kids have been in school almost a month and they have made many friends. I on the other hand have applied for a job not gotten it (which is OK I guess), I have been a stay at home Mom, and a housewife, homemaker and all that jazz. I have made myself a nifty little routine and gotten the kids signed up for sports and found a church we all love. Although the church is very different then anything we have ever experienced before. I am loving life, loving our new condo (rented so technically not ours) and loving everything Florida has to offer. OK I lied I dont love the snakes I keephearing of or the alligator's but so far everyone is safe and that is what matters. I do miss having friends and know in time I will make some and I do miss being able to go see my Mom and my other adopted family when I want to.

Noy I have all my family in Florida, my son sit's beside me fighting homework (just like NY aghhhh(, my daughter and husband sit in the bedroom watching TV together before Hubby is off to work. Definitely different than NY because in NY Hubby would have had to leave over an hour ago to be at work in time and yet he would still have an hour till he got there. Now we live 5 minutes from his job which gives him much more time with us on a daily basis. Definitely some more adjusting but we all love being home as a family. Some other adjustment's?!? Hmmm I am now a nightly cook. OK dont want to lie but an almost nightly cook and it is nice to have hubby walk through the door to a hot prepared by me meal sitting on the table, or making it's way towards the table. We sit at the table as a family almost nightly to eat dinner and we are having lot's of quality time. We go to church weekly because we want to not because we have to and that is a huge change and in my opinion a change for the best.

I have taken some time to adjust and the kids are still taking time to adjust and we are all learning new things in a new land. I am hoping to eventually make some friends so I can become human again and not just Mom and wife but until then I am enjoying life. Maybe one doesn't need friends (close by at least) to always go out with and enjoy time with. I am lucky I have wonderful friends I keep in touch with online and on the phone and that I wouldn't change for the world. So there is my update I am out here and hopefully will be blogging again. At least until football/cheerleading start's then I hear my life will be pretty consumed with that. Anyone left here please say hi, leave a link. Remind me if I do have any follower's left. If not oh well at least I have these wonderful memorie's to look back on and make me smile.